Occam's razor as relationship advice

Ok I first have to admit that I can be some what of a pseudo intellect.  Meaning I had to google Occam's razor because I'm not Sheldon Cooper smart.But after googling I thought of a lot of practical applications for this theory. Occam's razor states: all things being equal the simplest explanation is the most likely.  

Which immediately made me think of all the ways I've tried to complicate things men have said to me in life.  And I'm definitely not alone - many of my friends share this dumb ass habit.  You know the one where you come up with a deeply complicated - bordering on fantasy fiction explanation for why someone is being a douche.  Like why hasn't that guy friended me on Facebook or why did he ask me to go dutch on a date - or did he just ask for gas money?  Or why is he out so late and didn't call me.  Or why didn't I get a call on my birthday.  Wait.. did this dude just break into my house and steal my wallet.  Ok that never happened to me at least.

Now in the past I can come up with lots of excuses - maybe he's suffering from that thing that's going around and is just under the weather - maybe he just traded his car in for a hybrid and he's just not used paying for gas - I don't know why someone would trade out of a hybrid - just go with it.  Maybe he doesn't check Facebook that often.  Maybe he that other girl is his sister.  

But Occam's razor solves all that - by saying that you are complicating things way too much.  So in short he's probably just a jerk, or he's a broke jerk, or he's a broke jerk who is also a criminal.  

This can also be called the He's Just Not That Into theory - but who ever came up with Occam's razor isn't around the sue the Sex and the City guy. 

And looksie I'm not the only chickadie who has made the correlation.  While writing this I googled Occam's razor and He's Just Not that Into you.  And in further proof of another theory: there's nothing new under the sun.  A writer from Galmour came to the same conclusion.  

http://www.glamour.com/sex-love-life/blogs/smitten/2012/03/how-occams-razor-saved-my-dati.html

Bangable Dudes in History

There's something for everyone on the interwebs.  I mean everyone.  Here's a really good site on smart cute historical people you wish you could shag but you can't because rigamortis has long set in.

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NPR's Michel Martin - A Black Girl Nerd Role Model

NPR's Michel Martin is featured in this month's issue of Washingtonian discussing the things that made her who she is. But let's talk directly about her black girl nerd bonafides:


1. She works for NPR - nuff said.  I heart public radio so.
2. Are those a pair of cute spectacles she's holding?
3. She read the Excorcist as a child.  See my profile over to the right >>>>
    ps Michel I did not sleep for ages either
4. She has a cute natural do that makes a statement without trying too hard.
    caveat you can be a BGN with straight hair people.
5. She loves news.

I will add the disclaimer that I know Michel personally and consider her a mentor - not because I'm name dropping but just to state my bias - and because maybe I am name dropping just a little.

In addition she's an Emmy Award winning journalist and for you political junkies she was the lone black commentator holding it down for many years as a regular on a Sunday show also known as the white male version of the Miss America pageant- appearing with George Stephonopolis on ABC's this week. 

Need I say more - the sister is bad. Take. Notes. Ladies.

Black Girl Nerds: ...This ish Right Here!!

I'm not even going to dignify Mitt Robbedme's PBS/Big Bird comment.  Execept to say GTFOH.  But I will post the angry rant of another Black Girl Nerd:

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Game of Thrones Eats

I'm sorta into Game of Thrones - if you don't know the series you've been under a rock.  It's definitely nerd girl fare - but I feel like it's also pretty mainstream.  I saw on Twitter that R&B star Amerie is reading it : - albeit she went to Georgetown which pretty much qualifies you as a nerd girl.  I don't think they're reading it in the hood - but I could be wrong.

After reading a couple of the books I began to wonder if I was the only one who got really hungry when they described the food.  I wouldn't consider myself a foodie I just eat a lot.  But seriously every other page they're going on and on about chicken grease sliding down someone's fingers.  And the Homer Simpson voice inside my head is like mmmmm... chicken or mmmmm... Dornish hens.  You get the point. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8-4P1WPE-Qg



Well apparently I'm not the only fat girl.  Two nerd chics have come up with a blog and now have a cook book that's all about cooking Westeros food - which I think is just probably medieval cuisine     but sounds good to me.

Check out their blog.  What a cool fan tribute: http://www.innatthecrossroads.com

Today's Google sketch - A nerd's dream

It's almost 7:00 p.m. EST so I'm sure I'm late to this but today's google sketch is a tribute to Star Trek's 46th anniversary.  And it's interactive.  Have fun nerds. www.google.com

The Prototype: Dating As A Black Girl Nerd

"She'll love books and cook and look just like you" - Andre' 3000

Finding a mate when you're a black girl nerd can be hard.  If you're like me you've got a multi-faceted personality that you turn on for different audiences.

This can make you appealing to lots of different types of guys - but usually results in none of them knowing the real you.

I always tried to figure out at what point it was ok for me to turn to Adult Swim at night and start watching cartoons like I usually do - without dude thinking I'm a weirdo.

Harry Belafonte's Antics Got Oprah Thinking She Dodged a Bullet

Kulture Kritic has a post on Harry Belafonte's comments that Beyonce and Jay-Z are emblamatic of the modern day black celebrity who doesn't do enough to speak out for the cause of poor blacks - i.e. the people who buy their albums and bolster their success.

 

I'll just add the caveat that I respect Belafonte's long and storied career but sometimes I feel like he just says random shit out his mouth. 

It's like how I felt about Rev. Al before he got all guzzied up by MSNBC.

But on this one Belafonte's right.  I just believe his target could've been more accurate.  I like Bey and Jay.  I'm not a stan for either but they make good music.  They're a cute couple and they make a cute baby.  But they are both risk adverse celebrities.  They ain't doing shit to mess up their brand(s).  I do LOVE Solange.  She's more counter culture than her sister and has the freedom to be so.  But that's another topic.